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2012年8月29日 星期三

How it Affects Your Children and What You Should Do When Their Pet Dies


Many times the first contact with death for your children happens when their pet just died. Most of the times they can't comprehend where their pet has gone and why is not back yet. The children need to be explained a few things, however they also they need extra love, support, consolation and a display of deep affection. They won't understand many things at a tender age and particularly if they are up to 5 years old only, they will think that the pet will return to them eventually.

Between the ages of 6-8 they will start to somehow grasp that the pet might not come back afterall, and they will realize to a lesser extent the seriousness of the subject of death and dying. Only a bit later on, from around the age of 9-10 they are fully aware that death is permanent and once gone, the pet will never return.

Many parents face the difficult decision on having to tell their kids that the pet diet. They find it quite hard to express their words in a way that the child will understand. This is why it is useful to get the kids quite comfortable by using a soft and kind voice and hug them, make them feel loved at all times. One thing you need to do is telling them the truth. No matter what, you can't lie to your kids. Even if you think you are protecting them by lying, it is wrong and it might backfire by creating mistrust, anxiety and unneeded panic.

Of course there will be many questions asked by your child, such as 'Why did the pet die' and 'When is coming back', and 'When will I see the pet again' and some children might also feel that it's their fault somehow that the pet is gone. You have to make sure that any feelings of guilt are immediately put to rest by the children, else they might grow up with that feeling inside them and that might cause them harm in the long run.

Of course the children will feel anger, sadness, pain, grief and that is normal. Take note that they might even feel jealousy towards other kids that have pets, so watch out for any such signs. But usually these will pass eventually.

One of the best ways to help your children heal is to let them help in your search for the best pet urn. If needed be, go online, search at Amazon and go with them through the various pictures of the displayed urns. This way they will feel that they have contributed somehow to keeping alive the memory of their most beloved pet, and will start to heal faster.




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